Non-Monogamy Advocates Ask Facebook to Be More Open


A group that supports ethical non-monogamy sent an open letter to Meta on Thursday urging Facebook to allow users to post more than one relationship status on their profiles.

letter, which was initiated by the Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-Monogamy, or OPEN, said Facebook’s current policy is “arbitrary” and “exclusive.” The signatories included leaders from groups such as the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom and the Center for Positive Sexuality.

A spokesperson for Meta said the company is looking into the letter and noted that one of the statuses users can choose on Facebook is “in an open relationship.” The change the applicants are asking for will allow them to list all of their romantic partners.

About 20 percent of people say they are consensually non-monogamous in some form, according to a study. 2017 study. According to Brett Chamberlin, Executive Director of OPEN, today the term includes “billions of niche terms”. The most well-known terms include “polyamory”, which means dating several people at the same time, and “swing”, which describes when people in a relationship swap partners with each other.

A newer entry is “relationship anarchy”, where the members break all the expected norms associated with romantic relationships and only obey the rules set by the people involved.

“Ethical non-monogamy is nothing new, but technologies like the Internet have made it easier for people to form communities and lead lifestyles that may not have been accepted in mainstream culture before,” Mr. Chamberlin said.

Today, people interested in discovering their relationship can seek advice from podcasts and polyamory coaches, as well as join dating apps like Feeld and #open to meet like-minded people. The consensual non-monogamy has even reached Vogue magazine, where one writer asked: “Is monogamy over?

People have become more open about their non-monogamous relationships by writing articles and social media posts about their experiences.

Last month, Taylor Frankie Paul, a TikTok star with 3.6 million followers, opened up about her open marriage in Live Stream. Ms. Paul, a Mormon church member, told viewers that she, her husband, and some of their friends would be doing a “soft wiggle” where “you don’t switch all the way and you don’t go all the way.” Ms Paul also said that she and her husband are currently in the process of divorcing, in part due to Ms Paul’s decision to break the rules of their agreement.

The most famous people who have publicly discussed their experience of non-monogamy may be Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith. Last year Mr Smith told GQ about the period during which his marriage was open.

“We gave each other trust and freedom, believing that everyone should find their own path,” the actor said. “And marriage cannot be a prison for us.” Willow Smith, the couple’s daughter, spoke out about polyamory on “Red table conversation”, a show she hosts with her mom and grandma.

Part of the shift towards greater recognition may come from generation to generation. AT YouGov Poll surveyed about 1,340 people and asked them to describe their “ideal relationship” on a scale from “completely monogamous” to “completely non-monogamous.” 30 percent Generation X and 25 percent Baby Boomers.

Despite the growing normalization of non-monogamy as a practice, many people who practice it are still afraid to speak publicly about their lifestyle, Mr. Chamberlain said.

“You can get fired from your job, lose your home, or lose a custody battle depending on the structure of your intimate relationship,” he said. The goal of his organization, which he and two others founded in April, is to raise awareness and gain greater acceptance of non-monogamous relationships.

“Long term, one of the projects of culture and society is to give people more opportunities to participate in the voluntary relationships they choose,” he said. He pointed to the LGBTQ rights movement as one such project. Consensual non-monogamy, he added, “is the next chapter.”


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